Fertility Associates SF

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1. suzie and sally

   2008 Jan 30 1

   what is fertility?
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2. Steph

   2008 Jan 30 2

   i have this same problem, my best bet is to talk to him about the options of getting his sperm count checked and when that comes up low then suggest the fertility clinic
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3. thesunwasshiningonthesea

   2008 Jan 30 3

   Get yourself checked out first…it's the process of elimination and it'll make him feel like you weren't just "pointing" to him!
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4. cwstuffff

   2008 Jan 30 4

   Are his "feelings and pride" hinged upon his being able to procreate? If so, he's pretty fragile, isnt he…
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5. Danny

   2008 Jan 30 5

   "Honey, I think we need to go to the fertility clinic to see whose fault it is coz I'm pretty sure ure shootin blanks sunshine"
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6. Pat

   2008 Jan 30 6

   First I would do research on the medications that he is taking to see if this could be a possible factor. If it isn't, just ask him out of love to be tested. If he rejects it, you tried but you never know, it may be a thought that is on his mind too.

   Honesty is the best policy.
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7. Dee C

   2008 Jan 30 7

   I would ask him to go with you into your OBGYN and talk with her about options. and why you guys are not getting preg. She will explain to both of you that you both should get tested. That way… he won't feel like it's all him. If you are close to your doctor. you could even call ahead of time and explain the situation.
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8. mblastguy

   2008 Jan 30 8

   I don't think there is a real easy way. I would say that you go get tested together just to show that it might be you as well. At least that way you don't come across as accusing him.
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9. Kenya C

   2008 Jan 30 9

   Why do you simply assume it is him, even given that he takes medication? It could be you, or it could be the both of you. So approach the subject that way and ask to have yourself checked, too.
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10. Ella

    2008 Jan 30 10

    That would hurt his feelings?
    If you want a baby, just tell it to him straight.
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11. ajsmommy

    2008 Jan 30 11

    If he wants a baby too, he shouldn't have any problems going. How long have you been trying? If it's been a year, talk to your gynecologist about a referral. If it's only been a few months, keep trying! You don't have to tell your husband that you think it's his fault. If you both want a baby, he will be happy to go.

    Good luck!
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12. ifeellikepennies

    2008 Jan 30 12

    offer for yourself to be checked also. You could very well be the problem too, no offense intended.

    Make it something you both do together, to make sure that nobody gets their feelings hurt.
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13. shizbomb WMD

    2008 Jan 30 13

    Ask him like this….will you go and get your sperm count please. Straight up is the best way, women always think emotionally men however dont so just be straight with him. Of course you should get your stuff checked if you want him to get checked.
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14. sarah R

    2008 Jan 30 14

    I would just tell him you really want to get pregnant and if there was anything he could do to help
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15. Malia G

    2008 Jan 30 15

    If you sus[pect its his meds perhaps the first step you should be taking is not to a fertility clinic but to his Dr. Speak to his Dr. be honest about the situation you want to have children and you're worried the meds he's on are preventing that from happening.Go from there…

    M.G
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16. Wiremu

    2008 Jan 30 16

    Say "Hey you blank-shooting SOB, lets get your some help at the fertility clinic, OK?"
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17. sajas777

    2008 Jan 30 17

    Discuss it with him. You both want a baby, so make a deal. You try for x amount of time, and if nothing happens, a fertility clinic is next step.
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18. Happyone

    2008 Jan 30 18

    I would sit down and talk to him and basically tell him that you think that both you and him should go to the doctor and check that you guys are fit and able to have children. That way he wont feel as if he's the problem if you put yourself into the equation, he'll think that you guys are doing this together and want to make sure that you guys are able to reproduce. Best of luck to you.
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19. crazyturtleman999

    2008 Jan 30 19

    I dont think he would feel hurt about you wanting him to go to a fertility clinic I think he would more so be embarassed about have to do you know what in a cup. It might be pretty awkard to have a doctor give you this cup and be like HAVE FUN or whatever they would say lol… It wouldnt hurt to just be like hey man lets get check out. meaning both of you in case you are the one infertile it would be best to have both of you do it at the same time I am sure insurance covers that.

    and as long as both of you want to have a kid i dont think he will have a problem at all… Unless its a case where you want one and he doest really want one so he wont go to a clinic then you need to do alot of communicating. (not saying that is the case but just to add it in}

    but anyways just ask him otherwise you are going to asking another question on if I should get remarried so i can have a kid lol maybe not but who knows
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20. Mommy-to-Be

    2008 Jan 30 20

    I went through this same thing!! My doctor ran a few test on me then wanted my husband to get tested. She just gave me the paper work. I told my husband that my doctor gave me lab slips for him and he was ok with it. It made it very easy to tell him because my doctor did all the work!!
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    Now 7w 4d w/ #1

21. miles

    2008 Jan 30 21

    if both of yall are trying to have a baby these things need to take place if your not succeeding. no one should have heart feelings because your trying to correct the situation so that you can start your family this is an exciting proccess and takes lots of communication go together and both get tested its completely normal so you will know where to start and can move foward in the right direction in accomplishing both of you guys goal
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22. sawyer

    2008 Jan 30 22

    GET YOUR PECKING WHITE BUTT INTO THE CLINIC NOW
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23. Ashley

    2008 Jan 30 23

    Yeah you should suggest that you both get tested.

    Unfortunately, it is much easier to test men than women. A man's test checks his sperm count, and that is pretty easy. A woman's test has to check many problems that could be happening, and takes a long time. You should explain it to him. I'm sure he'd understand then that the logical solution would be for him to get tested first, then you.
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24. twowords

    2008 Jan 30 24

    You're planning on raising a child with him. If he gets hurt feelings over something like this, how is he going to handle a toddler?

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25. Julie P

    2008 Jan 30 25

    My doctor wouldn't even put me through any tests except lab work until my husband did his portion of the lab work as well…and he's been involved in 4 pregnancies. They need to rule his sperm out as a possibility. It's a part of the protocol. I don't think there's a choice, where I live at least. You can just tell him you want to get tested and tell him they need him to get a physical and give a sample as well to rule him out as a factor. We did this through our family practicioner - fertility clinic came later. This is the very first step.
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26. Firefighters Wife

    2008 Jan 30 26

    I would suggest the 2 of you go together to both get checked out at the same time, perhaps you go first, but both go w/ the understanding that both are getting checked out. Also, one of my friends thought that it might be her man that was the problem, he got checked out ins. did'nt cover it and it cost out of pocket 300 dollars. she ended up being the issue, but either way…you can buy fertility "monitors" (i can't think of the word but it checks you out) a couple pack is like 100.00 dollars they say you can buy them over the counter at pharmacies, but im sure there over the net too. good luck!
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27. md_yosri

    2008 Jan 31 27

    You can try a home test kit first before deciding on the next steps.

    Here are some tips to increase your chances:-

    Please keep in mind that this answer is for information purposes only, and is not intended to diagnose, treat or replace sound medical advice from your physician or health care provider.

    This is only personal opinion and was written to cater to general audiences. Not responsible for any side effect of this advice, i.e. getting pregnant. This advice assumed that you have undergo medical check up and do not have any clinical problem, i.e. PCOS, block uterus, impotent, etc.

    In order to ensure you get a good chance to get pregnant is to understand how it happen and then try to help the process to happen. Pregnancy happen when sperm join the egg, as such both must be present at the same time. Therefore it is good to ensure you ensure you and your husband have sex at the highest probability this happen.

    1. Sperm is being generated continuously in male reproductive system. However, sperm and _cum is not the same thing, i.e. if you have sex daily, the sperm count in _cum might be lower. As such, you might want to hold off sex 2 - 3 days before trying. (No masturbating also.)

    2. You need to do in 1 – 2 days before your ovulation. During most times of the month, the sperm are killed pretty fast. They do get some protection from the surrounding seminal fluid, but they are too weak to swim through thick, acidic vaginal mucus. Only once a month does the woman's body help the sperm out by making clear, stretchy mucus that is good for the swimmers! That is around ovulation, when the body wants the sperm to succeed.

    3. Selecting baby sex: It was noted that sperm for male died slightly easier, compared to sperm for female. As such, some folks remedial may include stressing the sperm to determine the sex of the baby, i.e. washing vaginal with acidic material (i.e. vinegar, lemon) for female or douse with baking soda (or specifically devised alkaline solutions) before intimate relation to give boost to male sperm which swim faster. Increase the acidity slightly kills the weaker male sperm – so the theory goes (not too much or you end up killing all of it).

    3.a. When trying to conceive a boy, it is suggested that orgasms during sex are a good thing as the body produces substances after orgasm that makes the vaginal environment more alkaline, which favors the "boy" sperm. The contractions which accompany an orgasm help move the sperm up and into the cervix, giving the "boy" sperm an extra chance at being available when your egg is available for fertilization.

    3.b. Also suggested that if you are trying to conceive a boy, deep penetration from your partner, preferably with the "doggy style" position, will deposit the sperm closer to the cervix giving the more aggressive and quicker moving "boy" sperm a head start to fertilizating the egg first.
    3.c. I have also read that wearing tight pants, going to spa can also caused testes temperature to be higher (female baby), loose pants/boxer is cooler. This happen because the sperm is being stored in testes. More info from http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=431612

    4. Illness can temporarily reduce sperm count, so if the father is sick you may want to delay your attempt until the following cycle.

    5. Smoking, drug and alcohol use, and exposure to toxic chemicals, can all reduce sperm count.

    6. Emotional stress is associated with lower sperm counts. You may want to check into relaxation techniques.

    7. Regular exercise and maintaining a healthy weight are lifestyle changes that can improve sperm count.

    8. Lack of certain vitamins and minerals can lower sperm count. You may want to try a nutritional supplement for enhancing male fertility

    9. If you're worried that you may have a low sperm count, you can use an at-home semen analysis kit to check your sperm concentration.

    10. Any form of stress, not just heat, can affect sperm production and lower sperm count.

    11. Diet: The father may have some caffeine just before intercourse.
    The father can have a couple of cups of coffee (or other caffeinated drink) fifteen minutes to half an hour before intercourse.
    Caffeine gives both types of sperm a boost, but the Y-sperm would get a little more of a boost.

    12. In order to ensure that the eggs supply is available, you need to ensure that you are not stress.

    13. You need to ensure that you are in ovulating phase. Ovulation occurs when a mature egg is released from the ovary, pushed down the fallopian tube, and is available to be fertilized. An egg lives 12-24 hours after leaving the ovary. Normally only one egg is released each time of ovulation. Ovulation can be affected by stress, illness or disruption of normal routines

    14. Sperm can live 5-7 days after sex and it is possible to have sex before you ovulate and not during and still get pregnant.

    15. To understand more refer to the following site: http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/index.htm

    The best of luck to you.

    1. http://www.defence.gov.au/health/infocentre/journals/ADFHJ_sep01/ADFHealthSep01_2_2_71-74.pdf
    2. http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&q=Pilot+and+astronaut+offspring&btnG=Google+Search
    3. http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/understandingovulation.html
    4. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ovulation
    Glossary
    BFN= negative home pregnancy test(Big Fat Negative)
    AF= aunt flow= menstrual period
    IVF= invitro fertilisation (where eggs are extracted from a woman, fertilised by sperm in a dish, and then implanted back into the woman's uterus)
    HPT= home pregnancy test
    BD= baby dance= sex
    DH= dear hubby
    BFP= positive HPT(Big Fat Positive)
    TTC= trying to conceive
    Opk= ovulation test (for predicting ovulation, or testing when ovulation occurs).
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